 Wrapping up Mental health awareness month, I would like to discuss some ways we can maintain our mental wellbeing. It is crucial for us to take a proactive approach to taking good care of ourselves.
In this blog post, we will discuss three great things we can all do to make this week great. Check out part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4, part 5, part 6 , part 7, part 8 and part 9 of the survival guide for more tips and ideas. #1: Be aware of your fears and concerns Having fears or concerns is absolutely normal. Many of us grew up in societies where we never spoke about our fears. There was an unspoken rule of silence around topics like that. It took me years to learn that it was ok for me to have some fears as long as I do not let them rule my life. These days I have been paying attention to my concerns around he pandemic and the future when all this is over. Questions to consider
#2: Connect with your support community We all need a group of people who we can confide in and go to when times are tough. Having a tribe and support community has been very important in my life. As I navigate the ups and the downs, I have been blessed to have people who provide me with a safe space. Staying connected to your community is extremely important especially at times like these. Questions to consider
#3: Know that you are not alone in any situation When we go through difficult situations or face challenges, it is easy to think that you are the only one who is experiencing it. Hearing other people's stories can be a way to get encouraged and gain more perspective on your situation. When you share your challenges, you open lines of communication with others around you. Questions to consider
Final Thoughts Let's end this post with one lesson that I learned this past week: It is important to take some time off and relax. Because I have been working from home for almost three months, I have not taken any time off to rest and do nothing. Fortunately, we had a public holiday and additional day off. I did something I needed to do - got a lot of rest. Call to Action How are you going to care for your mental wellbeing?
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 Over the past weeks we have all gotten to experience new things and discover different aspects of our lives. It is definitely a once in a lifetime experience.
In this blog post, we will discuss three great things we can all do to make this week great. Check out part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4, part 5, part 6 , part 7 and part 8 of the survival guide for more tips and ideas. #1: Breathe and be at peace One of the keys to surviving and thriving through a situation like this is to find a way to be at peace. It can be hard to be calm with everything happening around us. Being intentional about trying to find your peaceful place is crucial in times like this. I have found that I am more at peace when I take good care of myself and do something I enjoy. Questions to consider
#2: Set healthy boundaries At times like these, it is easy to get consumed by all our responsibilities for our families or work. You may find yourself spending many hours doing things and being busy. To avoid burning out, it is essential to set healthy boundaries around your time and energy. One of the things I have been doing better at is separating the times that I work, take care of my home, do things I enjoy and rest. Also, it has been extremely helpful for me to communicate my boundaries and ensure others respect them. Questions to consider
#3: Enjoy the happy moments Although it may be hard to see the good during these times, there are so many things in our lives that are going well. It helps a lot to remind ourselves of how blessed we are and enjoy the happy moments in our lives. I have been making it a priority to sit and celebrate the good things happening in my life. I have been smiling and laughing a lot lately. Questions to consider
Final Thoughts Let's end this post with one lesson that I learned this past week: This past week I have been accepting that I cannot control this situation and the best thing I can do is to be hopeful. As a planner, it is difficult for me but I am learning. Call to Action How are you going to motivate yourself?  Another week is here, and we have the opportunity to motivate each other. Strangely, time seems like it is going back quickly and yet slowly.
In this blog post, we will discuss three great things we can all do to make this week great. Check out part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4, part 5, part 6 and part 7 of the survival guide for more tips and ideas. #1: Think about the future The thoughts and concerns about the present situation easily cloud our view of the future. Thankfully, this too shall pass, and we will be able to work on some of our goals. I know it is hard to envision what life would be like when this is all over. Envisioning the future gives me hope and keeps me energized. Questions to consider
#2: Be patient with yourself Especially as we go into more weeks of working from home or adjusting to the new normal, it is important to be patient with ourselves. Remind yourself that you are doing great and there is no playbook for how things should go. Also, it helps to stop comparing yourself to others. Questions to consider
#3: Surround yourself with people and things that encourage you There is a lot of sad news out there. It is crucial for us to find some good news and fill our lives with positivity. Especially if you notice yourself being sad or concerned, it's time to change what you are watching and listening to. I also value the people in my live who remind me that we are all doing well. Questions to consider
Final Thoughts Let's end this post with one lesson that I learned in the past week: The best way to survive uncertain times is to celebrate the small things that bring you joy. Recently, I have been celebrating the fact that it's springs and mangoes are in season. The joy of eating a fruit that reminds me a lot of my childhood has been a highlight of the past weeks. Call to Action How are you going to be bring someone joy this week?  Most of us have been under some form of quarantine for many weeks or even months. It is incredible to be living through a time like this. We are all doing something spectacular.
In this blog post, we will discuss three great things we can all do to make this week great. Check out part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4, part 5 and part 6 of the survival guide for more tips and ideas. #1: Enjoy the time while it lasts When all of this is over and we look back, there will be things that we wish we did. Time is going by very quickly and the anticipation of what comes next is robbing us of the experiences we could be enjoying. Take the time to enjoy a few things now. We will probably not get time like this to spend with our family and loved ones. Questions to consider
#2: Do some self-care It is interesting that we still need to be reminded to take care of ourselves. Do something nice for yourself like taking a nap, having a long bath, eating a great meal or whatever you enjoy. We are all busy taking care of others, working or trying to keep our businesses afloat and it is easy for us to neglect our own needs. Self-care should be a priority for you. It is a great way to rejuvenate and gather new energy for the week. Questions to consider
#3: Continue being cautious As some of the mandated restrictions in different parts of the world are lifted, now it is time for us to apply wisdom. We have the responsibility to take care of ourselves and our loved ones. It is important to take all the precautionary measures and stay safe. There will be enough time for us to adapt to the new normal. Questions to consider
Final thoughts We need to make more time to rest and not feel guilty about it. I had cultivated the habit of always doing something and packing my weekends with tasks. I have seen the benefits of taking time to do nothing and relax. Call to Action How are you staying focused on the good things in your life?  Over the past weeks, I have leveraged my blog and the community as a way to survive through these times. The tips that I have been sharing have helped shift my perspective and provide a positive outlook. I’m looking forward to another week of amazingness.
In this blog post, we will discuss three great things we can all do to make this week great. Check out part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4 and part 5 of the survival guide for more tips and ideas. #1: Focus on what matters There are a lot of things going on that are competing for our attention these days. We have to prioritize things in our lives to stay sane and survive. I have found myself prioritizing family time more. Spending time with my family and having great conversations has been one of my favorite survival tools. It is crucial to prioritize things that make you feel good. Questions to consider
#2: Break free from the load of responsibility or external pressures Especially when you follow other people’s feeds or updates, you might think that you are the only one who is not doing amazing things during this time. The truth is, we all only show the parts of our lives that look good. Life would be much better if you do what you want and what brings you joy. If needed, reduce the amount of external input you let into your life via channels like social media. Questions to consider
#3: Celebrate yourself and your superpowers You may not feel like you are living your life to the fullest or crushing those goals. However, what you are doing is surviving through a time that no one could have prepared you for. We take it for granted that we are able to maintain some sense of structure at times like this. To all of you out there who are working, caring for your families, helping others out, staying sane and taking a shower - you are all heroes. Questions to consider
Final Thoughts Let's end this post with one lesson that I learned this past week: For someone like me who loves to plan and gets frustrated when there are no good plans to achieve major goals, it has been difficult to watch everything going on in the world and the uncertainty everyone is facing. This past week, I started accepting the fact that we will not have a plan for a while and that is fine. This is a significant change in perspective for me. Call to Action What have you learned about yourself lately?  As the weeks go by, I am encouraged to see all the amazing people around me make the best of the current situation. I am convinced that great things happen when we support each other.
In this blog post, we will discuss three great things we can all do to make this week great. Check out part 1, part 2, part 3 and part 4 of the survival guide for more tips and ideas. #1: Enjoy some rest We are trained and conditioned to always be on and doing things. Making time to rest is something we have to do intentionally. There will always be people and tasks that demand our time and attention. I have learned that I am at my best when I feel fresh and rested. Questions to consider
#2: Treat yourself to something you enjoy at home When we all left the house every day, we seemed to look forward to coming home. It's time to revisit those things that you looked forward to. Enjoy a good meal, book, movie, gardening or conversation with someone amazing. Sometimes doing small fun things make a huge difference in our mood and outlook on life. Questions to consider
#3: Stop expecting things to go back to normal quickly As part of the mental count down, we are silently waiting for the time when things go back to “normal”. One thing I am beginning to accept is that things will be different for a while. Of course, we are hopeful and all. But we will have to make some changes in our lives when this is over. Accepting that fact is helping me set the right expectation and not put too much pressure on getting back to normal. Questions to consider
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Call to Action How are you going to give yourself a small break this week?  We are definitely living in memorable times. I wonder what stories we will tell when all this is over. I hope you are all doing well.
In this blog post, we will discuss three great things we can all do to make this week great. Check out part 1, part 2 and part 3 of the survival guide for more tips and ideas. #1: Count your blessings At challenging times like these, it is very easy to be consumed with thoughts about what we don't have and the freedoms we have lost. This makes us lose sight of all the amazing things that we have. For me lately, I have been more vocal about the comfort that I have and the small things that make me happy. On my almost daily chats with my sister, we celebrate the small wins and good things in our lives. Questions to consider
#2: Learn something new A great way to distract yourself and gain long-term benefits is to learn something new. It could be acquiring life skills, professional development or new hobbies. This tip is inspired by my mum, who is taking an online class to grow her professional skills. In my previous newsletter, I shared some online learning platforms that I enjoy. There are many other life skills we can learn during times like this. I have been learning patience. Questions to consider
#3: Appreciate your special someone If you have a partner that is good to you, its time to show them that you appreciate them. I have come to appreciate my spouse a lot more over the past weeks. In almost every conversation I have had recently, I have shared how happy I am that we have a healthy relationship. Being able to be at home all day with another person for almost six weeks and still enjoy their company is not to be taken for granted. Questions to consider
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Call to Action How are you going to conserve your energy and not burn out?  We are starting another week in these special times. I hope you are doing well and making the best of our current situation.
In this blog post, we will discuss three great things we can all do to make this week great. Check out part 1 and part 2 of the survival guide for more tips and ideas. #1: Listen to some music One of the things I have been doing more of is listening to music. Music has a special function and effect on me. It provides comfort, reminds me of good memories and makes me hopeful for the future. I noticed that as I get busy, I stop doing things that I really enjoy. This is the perfect time for us to rediscover the things that make us happy. Questions to consider
#2: Share your story and memories With the world slowing down a little, you might be able to remember more things. There is something special about sharing your past experiences with your family and friends. In the spirit of building deeper relationships, we have the opportunity to have conversations that matter. Questions to consider
#3: Encourage someone around you There are people around you who may benefit from some kind words and encouragement. We are all dealing with these uncertain times in different ways. I strongly believe that we can help each other get through these times. Questions to consider
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Call to Action How are you guarding your mind and your thoughts?  It's the start of another week in these special times. How have the past weeks been for you? I hope you are doing well and making the best of our current situation.
In this blog post, we will discuss three great things we can all do to make this week great. Check out part 1 of the survival guide for three additional tips. #1: Start a new project Imagine when this is all over, knowing that you used the time optimally and created something valuable for yourself. We all have many things we want to do but don't find the time to. Now is the perfect time to unpack that list and start working on your personal project. Questions to consider
#2: Write down your thoughts Journaling is a practice that helps me get my thoughts together and check-in with myself. Last week I recommended we all spend time with ourselves and our thoughts. One way to take it further is to write things down. There are so many amazing thoughts and ideas that we don't even know we have. Taking notes will help you remember them. Questions to consider
#3: Do something for someone Acts of service help us look beyond our problems. Now that we are spending time with family, we have the opportunity to do special things for them. With the help of technology, we can also do things for people virtually. I recently saw people offering to have a chat with people who might be feeling lonely during these times. The act of kindness gave me a lot of hope. Questions to consider
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Call to Action How will you bring some positivity into your life this week?  As I was planning for my blog post this week, I thought it'll be fitting to share great resources and tips that will help us get through these times. Let's take the opportunity we have to share some practical things we can do to survive and thrive.
In this blog post, we will discuss three great things we can all do to make this week great. Over the next weeks, I will share more tips and recommendations with you on how to thrive during this season. #1: Spend some time with yourself With the amount of time I have been spending at home, I have had a lot of time to think and reminisce. It feels like during normal times, I am so busy doing life and hardly have any time to be still and think. As I was reflecting over the past weeks, I have become more aware of the fact that I am the happiest I have been in my life. This process has led me to feel more gratitude for who I am and where I am in life. Questions to consider
#2: Share your thoughts with people who care Firstly, if you are feeling concerned or slightly anxious, you are not alone. No matter what you are feeling, it is a valid way to feel. Earlier today, I was talking to someone who lives alone, and I really count myself blessed to have someone to talk to in the house. Being able to talk about my thoughts with my family has been a game-changer. Questions to consider
#3: Reconnect with one person (virtually) Especially now when a lot of us are practicing "physical distancing", it is important to stay in contact with people we care about. With our busy lives, it is very easy to lose contact with people in our lives. This is a great time to connect with someone you have not spoken to in a long while. I believe that these connections will make a difference for everyone involved. With the technology we have, we are able to stay connected easily. Questions to consider
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Call to Action How are you going to make this time count? Take action to make the best of this situation.  I planned to write another blog post today. As I reflected more on the topics on my mind these days, I decided to talk about the latest changes in all our lives. When the year started, I had my plans for this quarter and I never expected to be here.
In this blog post, I will share my thoughts on life as it is today and how I am working on adjusting my perspective. Have I ever been through an experience like this? In my life, I have been through some scary experiences, but I am not sure I can compare them to this experience. Growing up in Nigeria, there were some unrests that led to total curfews and restrictions on resources. I remember two of those times distinctly. From what I remember, there was a lot of worry on the faces of adults around us. One thing was sure, the times came and passed. It took a long time for life to go back to normal, but it eventually did. Now fast-forward almost 20 years later, another crisis is impacting our lives greatly. The Coronavirus pandemic is affecting all of our lives significantly. How can we avoid panic? One of the things that I am noticing is that there is an excessive amount of news coverage on COVID-19. For me, because I have family around the world, I am very happy that I can keep track of things happening with them from so far away. However, I have found myself being slightly nervous around the spread of the disease, especially here in the US. If you follow the news, you know why. I really don't want fear to be a constant part of my life. It is tough but one thing that helps me is to remind myself of the good things that we have. My family and I are healthy, have a source of income and access to most of the resources we need. I am very grateful for that and do not take it for granted. How can we take care of ourselves? With all the chaos around us, it is crucial for us to prioritize self-care. I have been doing some research on the impact of a crisis on our mental health and physical well-being. If you are like me, you internalize a lot of the stress around you. I am being more intentional about acknowledging how I feel and then making changes to be healthy. Another thing that I am doing is accepting the change in our lives. Especially with work, a lot has changed. I am thankful for the flexibility I have and I'm taking advantage of the opportunities I have. What responsibilities do we have for the people around us? This past weekend, I was talking to my sister, who reminded me of the fact that she has to stay healthy to take care of her daughter. Not only does she have to think about herself or her health. but she is also responsible for another little human. In addition, I believe that generally we have to be compassionate and have empathy for others around us. We live in a society and are responsible for caring about each other. How can we help each other? At times like this, it is easy to get into your mind and think about ourselves the most. I am finding that when I care for other people, it makes me happier. I have been touched by people offering to help each other at these strange times. It reminds me a lot of growing up in Nigeria where we all cared for our family and neighbors. So, this is me offering my help to anyone who needs some support. There are different types of things we can help people do, ranging from conversations to sharing our knowledge. We all have something to offer. Final Thoughts There is so much going on in my mind these days. To help myself, here are some things that I am telling myself:
Call to Action Take care of yourself and the people around you.  Happy Women's Day and Women's heritage month to all the amazing women I know!
This past Sunday, we celebrated International Women's Day (IWD). The IWD theme for this year is "#Each for Equal". I was also attracted to the phrase "I am Generation Equality: Realizing Women’s Rights" from the United Nations. When I saw the theme and slogan for the year, I started wondering what gender equality means to me and what role I can play. In this blog post, I will share my journey and thoughts on some of the thought-provoking statements on the International Women's Day website. Starting point: What is Gender Equality
MC's Journey When I think about my childhood, I am reminded that I was very fortunate to grow up around very strong Women. My mother, grandmother, aunts and cousins were all responsible for taking care of their households. And they did all that was in their power to provide for their families. Taking into consideration that Nigeria, where I spent my childhood, is a very patriarchal society. In our home, I was fortunate to grow up without the thought of being limited as a woman. However, there were strong external factors that defined the role of a woman. In summary, the reason a woman was here on earth was to get married, have kids and care for their families. Another strong contributing factor to me believing I was strong and could do anything that I wanted to do was the Secondary school/High school that I attended. I was able to get a good foundation in my science education. Let's fast-forward a few years. The time in my life where I really started thinking about gender equality more was when I entered the workforce. I could not understand the difference in pay. As data shows, Women earn 23% less than men globally. This is one that has been on my mind over the years of my career. Every day when I go to work, I bring my best self and do an amazing job. All I want is to be rewarded the same way. It doesn't make sense to me. Now let's talk about our contribution to the world as women. I should probably write a longer post about this. It is very important for me to show women out there that we are equal and can do anything we want to do. I want to encourage young girls to study technical topics and explore any careers that they would like to be without being restricted. This is what I'm focused on now. Why is it essential to have Gender Equality? This statement on the IWD website caught my attention - "An equal world is an enabled world" . I strongly believe that as women, we have a lot to contribute to the world. To make this point stronger, the UN states that "Providing women and girls with equal access to education, health care, decent work, and representation in political and economic decision-making processes will fuel sustainable economies and benefit societies and humanity at large". How can we contribute to Gender Equality? We can all do things to make progress towards gender equality: #1: Celebrate women's achievement In our lives, we are surrounded by amazing women. Make it a priority to celebrate the women around you. The more we celebrate each other's contributions the more they will be seen. #2: Raise awareness against bias Especially in my new role, I am more aware of the bias that people have against women. When we see people apply stereotypes and biases, we can speak up. Making people aware of bias will get us closer to the world we want to live in. #3: Take action for equality If we want to see change, we need to be the change. I strongly believe that if we take action, we will contribute to making the world a better place. Final Thoughts Let's wrap up this post with quotes from amazing women
Call to Action Celebrate your greatness!  Recently, I have been reflecting on how my perspective on many aspects of life has changed after living in multiple countries. I count myself very fortunate to be on this journey.
In this blog post, I will share ten things that I see differently since I started living in Nigeria, Germany and the US. #1: Home is wherever you want it to be Especially when I moved to the US, I started asking myself the question, "where is my home?". This was a question that took me a while to figure out. At the end of my deliberations, I concluded that it's perfectly fine to have multiple places where you feel at home. I now see Germany, Nigeria and the US as my home. It's a little complicated, but I have accepted it. There are many things that I appreciate from the countries I have lived in. #2: Being curious to learn about new cultures There are so many great things we can learn from different cultures around us. I am more interested and curious about learning about the different traditions, norms and customs of the people I meet. I find the world is rich in culture and there is so much for us all to learn. When people share their traditions around food and celebrations, I am very intrigued. We are very fortunate to live in such a global world where we have exposure to so many different people. #3: Accepting that there is so much to learn As I go through my journey, I am learning that it is ok to not know everything or have things figured out. I always thought I had to have a plan for everything and think through all situations. Moving to a new country brings a lot of unexpected things and situations you will not be prepared for. Accepting that I am on a learning journey has changed the way I view new experiences and challenges. #4: Accepting and celebrating differences in people Almost every day over the past 18 years, I have had the opportunity of meeting people from different backgrounds. I have learned to appreciate the differences in the people I meet. When I see people with similar experiences as mine, I find it surprising. Learning to celebrate the differences of people around me has enriched my life. Being open and receptive to all the great things that people have to offer is something I aspire to continue doing. #5: Having empathy for people When I watch the news or hear conversations about people who are working to make a home and be successful in a new country, I have a lot of empathy for them. Although I have been fortunate on my journey, I never want to be that person that looks down on other people's path to a better life. #6: Celebrating the little things that remind you of home A few weeks ago, we found a store that sold a special type of fruit that we grew up eating in Nigeria. I should add that we discovered it in a city in California. It was very unexpected. We bought some, enjoyed it and made sure we sent pictures to our family. Thinking back on this little thing that made us so happy reminded me of the fact that the little things that remind me of home are very special. Don't get me started on the day I found soft pretzel knots in a local bakery very far away from Germany. #7: Helping others find a community One thing that is important to me today is to help people around me feel like they belong. Being able to find or build a community is an important part of feeling at home in a new country. Whenever I'm able to provide someone with some connection, I take the opportunity to support them. I strongly believe that we can all support each other on our journey to be at home wherever we find ourselves. #8: Appreciating the experiences Reflecting on my journey, I know that all the experiences were worth it. Often when you think about the negative experiences you don't really appreciate them. Well, I didn't enjoy them, when I was going through them but now I see the value of those experiences. For example, struggling and learning to live in Germany, made me very resilient. Now fast forward to living in the US, I am able to apply a lot of the lessons I learned and appreciate the amazing things happening in my life. #9: Valuing the people As I have moved to different cities and countries, I have been blessed to meet amazing people. I value the time that I get to spend with people on my journey. Although I am not in contact with everyone I would love to be connected to, I hold on very fondly to the great memories. I know for a fact that different people have made my journey worthwhile and exciting. #10: Realizing that we all have unique and beautiful stories When I hear people's stories or backgrounds and how they got to be where they are, I am always amazed. We all have fascinating stories. Sharing my story has helped other people share more with me. This has been the most rewarding part of my 18-year relocation Journey Final Thoughts Check out my other posts on my life in Nigeria, Germany and the US in the Her Relocation Posts.  As I progress in my career and life in general, I am learning the value of having a mentor and being a mentor. One way that I invest in my success is by having mentors. My mentors come in different types and support me in various aspects of my life. Some of them provide guidance for my professional life while others support me in my business and personal life.
In this blog post, we will explore the definition of mentorship and the top five pieces of advice that I received about mentorship that help me every day. What is Mentorship?
How to have successful Mentorship relationships #1: Good Mentorship relationships benefit both parties Initially, when I was identifying my mentors, I felt like I did not have anything to offer them in return. I was worried that I was going to burden them and add no value to them. However, through the years, I have realized that I also give my mentors a lot. For some of them, I provide a different perspective that they may not be thinking about or offer them advice on topics that I am an expert in. Once you start seeing Mentorship as a beneficial relationship for everyone involved, it will reduce your guilt, and you will get the best value. Further Reading The Reciprocal Value of Mentorship #2: You can have multiple Mentors For the longest time, I thought I could only have one mentor who will provide holistic support. The truth is that no one person can or even needs to give you guidance in all aspects of your life. After doing more research and hearing about the possibility of having multiple mentors, I was very excited. Now, I have many people who I go to for support, depending on the need I have. Another lesson I have learned is that my mentors could also be my peers. Further Reading The 7 Essentials To Forming A Board Of Mentors #3: Be intentional about choosing your Mentors Especially as I grow in my career, I want to ensure that I have mentors that fit my needs. I think that your goal should be more than just having a mentor for the sake of it, but having mentors that can support you on your growth journey. The concept of interviewing my potential mentors is one that I appreciate now. It gives me the chance to define my need and also the type of people that I am looking for. Further Reading 25 Questions to Ask a Mentor #4: Be prepared for your Mentorship sessions One of the practices that I prioritize is getting prepared before I speak with or contact my mentors. I prepare the updates I want to share as well as the questions that I have for my mentors. Being disciplined has helped me get the most value from the time that I spend with my mentors. This is the same way that I approach everything that means a lot to me. I know that I get the most value from formal mentorship. Further Reading Four Types of Questions To Ask Your Mentor #5: Always keep your Mentor up to date on your progress In my mentorship relationships, it is important to me to share the progress that I am making, not only areas that I am struggling with. I look forward to sharing the good things that happened after I came to them for advice. This serves two purposes; it helps them see that they are helping me and helps me know that it is a beneficial relationship that I need to continue to have. Further Reading How to Build a Great Relationship with a Mentor Call to Action Who are your mentors? What type of new mentors do you need to find? Final Thoughts
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 At a conference I attended recently, one of the speakers spoke about how we need to be aware of what influences us. Especially in a world where "Influencers" are a huge deal, we have to know who those influencers in our lives are. Do the Influences in your life cause you to do good, feel great about yourself, take on new challenges and be a better you? If you are not quite sure, it's time for reassessment and change. To get to where you want to be in life, it is key to have the right influences in your life.
In this blog post, we will explore the definition of influence and ways to be intentional about what influences you. What does influence mean?
How do others or external factors influence us?
How to be intentional about what Influences you Know the people and things that influence you There are so many sources of input into our lives these days. From the steady stream of information on social media, the internet, Television and other people, we get many different data points that influence us. Being aware of those things and people that influence you is the first step to having a healthy relationship with external influences. Questions to consider
Acknowledge how things influence you Knowing how you get influenced is essential. You might be influenced by things you grew up with, new things you often see, what people around you say or do. The fact is, external influences have a strong effect on what we think, how we act and grow. Once you know what influences you and how it affects your life, you can take charge. Questions to consider
Choose what influences you Being intentional about what you allow to influence you is crucial. To live a successful like, you will need to remove negative influences and find new positive ones actively. You have the opportunity to ensure that things that influence you help get you to the future that you want. Questions to consider
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 From conversations that I have been having and how I have been feeling, 2020 has been an intense year so far. Acknowledging that we are only in February and have ten more months to go this year, we have to preserve our energy in order not to burn out. One thing is for sure, energy depletes and our tanks will be empty if we don't intentionally recharge.
In this blog post, we will discuss things that drain your energy and five ways to recharge your energy to thrive this year. What drains your energy? Knowing the things that steal your energy is essential to help you conserve your energy. Sharing some things that drain our energy quickly:
How to recharge your energy The good news is that there are simple ways for you to renew your energy. Prioritize self-care and get some rest Making time for yourself may sound almost impossible. Think about the last time you got quality sleep. For me, trying to chase my dreams and work full time has been taking up a lot of my time lately. These days, I find myself being very tired a lot. I am learning the value of taking a break and taking care of myself. Strategies to consider
Do something fun and new Changing your routine a little is a great way to recharge your energy. Doing things you enjoy may not be part of your routine and when you get to do them you will feel energized. They don't have to be big things. It could be as simple as going for a concert, seeing a movie, getting a great meal, site-seeing or traveling to a new place. Strategies to consider
Reconnect with people When life gets busy, it is easy to lose contact with people we really enjoy being around. Recently, I noticed that this was happening to me. I could not remember when last I spent time with someone just for fun or had a long phone call with anyone. The truth is my favorite person to chat with is my eight-year-old niece. She helps me see the world differently. Strategies to consider
Get some help and delegate Having to do everything on your own is one of the greatest energy drains. Taking care of a household, working a job, owning your business and in general taking care of everyone else's needs will surely deplete your energy. Asking for help and getting services that simplify my life is something that I am learning to do more of. Yes, I still deal with the guilt of wanting to do everything on my own. But I tell myself that it is worth it and I will burn out if I don’t get help. Strategies to consider
Give back This past weekend I had the opportunity to speak to first generation students at UC Berkeley and it energized me. Being able to share my story and words of encouragement with students who are about to enter the workforce was very special. I am a firm believer that giving back to others helps you overcome the feeling of being overwhelmed and gives you fresh energy. Strategies to consider
Final Thoughts
Call to Action What are the things that are draining your energy? What three strategies are you going to apply to recharge yourself? Great Resources 10 Surprisingly Simple Things You Can Do to Recharge Your Mind 10 Ways You Can Best Use Your Time To Mentally Recharge How to Recharge and Get Motivated 6 Tips to Recharge at the Office What to Do on Vacation to Make Sure You Fully Rechargeœ  On Feb 20, 2015 I boarded a plane from Frankfurt, Germany to the Bay Area in the US. I can't believe it's been five years already since I moved here. The last years have been very eventful. I am very grateful for the opportunities that I have had on my journey. The theme for my fifth year in the US was “thrive in uncertainty and celebrate the good.”
In this blog post, I will reflect on my fifth year in the US. This post continues my "Her Relocation" series where I share my experience living in multiple countries over the past 19 years. Check out My Life in the US - Year 1, Year 2&3 and Year 4. Discovering that my relocation experience is different Thinking back to my first five years in Germany, it was extremely difficult. Some of the differences include being financially stable, having companionship, having a clearer plan and being more mature. I was definitely able to deal with new experiences better than when I moved to Germany at the age of fifteen. There have been ups and downs on this journey, but I have felt more equipped to deal with them and thrive. Realizing that time flies by very quickly When I started writing this blog post, I was surprised at the speed at which time has gone by. I guess it's true when they say, "time flies when you are having fun". So many things have happened since I moved to the US. There have been lots of lessons learned, experiences had, people met, and dreams realized. I'm looking forward to my journey over the next years. Learning that stability is cool too One thing that I realized recently is that this is the longest time I have spent in a single house and city for all my life. I have been living here for five years straight. Although I enjoyed moving around on my relocation journey, it does feel very good to be stable. Having a stable home and loving partner has made my time in the US amazing. I have had some practice adapting to new cities and homes over the past 19 years. However, I am now learning the valuable skill of building my life and home in a stable environment. Accepting things that are outside of your control One of the most challenging parts of my journey in the US was waiting for my immigration status to be updated. As an immigrant for the past 19 years, I have gotten used to having to go through the immigration process. This time it was different, there were a lot of things going on outside my control and all I could do was check the website regularly and wait. After months of waiting and being anxious, I was able to complete my immigration process. It definitely took a lot of mental and emotional energy to stay calm through the process. Living out my passion is fulfilling In my previous posts, I have shared that one of my favorite parts of living in the US is that I finally got to make my dreams a reality. Over the past year, I really leaned into the work that I had started with following my passion. In my fifth year I took on new challenges and continued to build on the strong foundation. Overcoming a challenge and thriving professionally I kicked off my 5th year in the US knowing that I needed to transition to a new role. It wasn't something I planned but I knew it was necessary. One big part of moving to different countries is that I have learned a lot about myself. I know when it is the right time to pick up myself and move. Change has been constant in my life. When the time came to change my role unexpectedly, I reminded myself of all the change I have weathered in my life and how I have succeeded in the past 18 years. It was all worth it in the end. I'm growing and thriving. Final Thoughts - 10 Lessons I learned
Call to Action What is one thing you won't have been able to do if you didn't move to a new city or country? Celebrate the opportunities  Recently, I have been thinking about my achievements and those of the people around me. Our accomplishments are a topic we need to get more comfortable thinking and talking about. To start the year, I would like to share something that will change your perspective this year. Focusing on your achievements will remind you of the good that has happened and is happening in your life.
In this blog post, we will explore some ways to form the good habit of celebrating your accomplishments. Why is it important to celebrate your accomplishments? There are many benefits of tracking and celebrating your accomplishments in your everyday live
How to make celebrating your Accomplishments a habit Know your Accomplishments When I hear people not being able to talk about their accomplishments, it makes me a little sad. In personal conversations, I try to ask more questions to understand the reason why people struggle with talking about the good things in their lives. The most significant reason I have seen is that we do not always see or know what we have achieved in life. It is important to take time to think about your accomplishments. Consider your achievement in all aspects of your life such as personal growth, professionally, financially, in your family, or in your business. Questions to consider
Track and maintain your Accomplishments log Documenting your accomplishments on an ongoing basis will help you on your quest to make celebrating your accomplishments a habit. One way I track my achievements is that I write them down in my accomplishment log. As part of my weekly journaling, I write down my highlights and accomplishments. To help me with this process, I collect all the great feedback I receive and things that I know I achieved. I have found great value in making this something I do regularly. This way, I can always remind myself of all my accomplishments. Questions to consider
Share your Accomplishments Now that you know your accomplishments and have a log, it's time to amplify the value of tracking your accomplishments by sharing them with the world. When I speak to people and hear them share their accomplishments, it motivates me. I aspire to be someone who motivates others to achieve their goals by sharing my experience with them as well. This has been one of the hardest parts for me on my learning journey. I have learned to remind myself that it is ok to talk about my accomplishments. If you read my posts, you'll see that I share my accomplishments, especially when I achieve my goals. Questions to consider
Celebrate your accomplishments Recognizing the effort you put in to accomplish something will inspire you in the future. When I look back at times when things were not easy but I was still able to achieve my goals, it gives me confidence in myself and helps me know that I can do it again. I have realized that I need to be intentional about celebrating my achievements. When I achieve any of my goals, I make it a point to celebrate in some way. Sometimes it takes me saying "I did it" and other times I do something special for myself. Questions to consider
Help others see their Accomplishments One of the ways to make celebrating accomplishments a habit is to help others around you celebrate their own accomplishments. It is sometimes easier to see people's shortcomings than see what they have achieved. Make it a priority to see the good work people are doing and recognize them. By looking out for their accomplishments and helping them celebrate it, you are making the world a more positive place. Questions to consider
Final Thoughts I want to take the time to remind you that you are amazing and that you can do anything you set your mind to do. Call to Action Which accomplishments are you proud of? Know your accomplishments. How are you going to track your accomplishments in 2020? Create your accomplishments log. Great Resources  When I launched my blog in January 2018, I had no idea where I will be two years later. Unlike with a lot of other things that I do, I did not have a perfect plan for my blog. It took me a while to be bold and take the step, so I decided to plan to start and actually get started instead of planning everything out.
I'm so excited to celebrate the second anniversary of my blog with you all. Thank you for reading, sharing my posts, sharing your experiences with me and allowing me to share my deepest thoughts with you. In this blog post, I will answer some of the questions I get about starting and having a blog. My responses to the top questions about my Blog When and how did I know I wanted to have a blog? In summer 2011, I had a strong desire to build a platform for women like me to share and learn from one another. I sat on my dream for over seven years and did nothing. The primary reason why I didn't get started was that I was too scared to take the bold step. However, I believe that the years that passed prepared me even more for launching my blog. How did I get started? Over the Christmas holidays in 2017, I knew the time had come and I could no longer make excuses for not having my blog. The first step for me was to create my site and start writing blog posts. The tasks that I needed completed sounded very easy. However, my quest for perfection almost discouraged me from launching my website. I decided to start working on and to launch my website with my first five blog posts. Over the first weeks of January, I worked on my site and my initial blog posts. Simultaneously I started taking writing classes to learn some writing skills and did expensive research on creating a website. I shared my site with the world on January 23, 2018. Why did I start blogging? In one of my first blog posts titled "What I want from my blog", I shared my motivation for starting my blog. In summary, I wanted to share my learnings with others, share resources that have helped me in my life, empower women in all phases of their lives, learn from other women's experiences and build a community of women who support each other on their journey. Looking back on the past two years, I have been able to do more than I expected with my blog. I am more than grateful for the opportunity to grow and give back to my community. What am I proud of? Celebrating my accomplishments is something that I am being more intentional about. Over the past two years, I have achieved the following:
What have I learned on my journey? As with every journey we embark on, there are many lessons to be learned. Some of the lessons I have learned that I did not anticipate were:
What have been my highlights? In addition to learning lessons and gaining experience, I have also had some personal highlights:
How do I ensure I am growing my blog? Growth and improvement are on my mind continuously. I want my blog to continue to grow over the next years. Some of the ways I ensure I maintain a growth mindset are:
What do I want to do in the future with my blog? To all my faithful readers, thanks a lot for supporting me on my journey. I'm committed to growing my platform over the next months and years
Final Thoughts I am sharing my story to encourage you to take a leap and do that thing that you have been telling yourself you can't do. If I could face my fears and do something I was scared of, you absolutely can too. Call to Action What is that thing you have been putting off and delaying? Now is the perfect time to pick it back up and do it. |
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