What to do when you feel Insecure
"Insecurity is just something that's there all the time. I've never been crippled by it." Catherine Keener
Do you feel insecure or you're not good enough?
As women we have a lot we are insecure about such as our body image, knowledge, identity, experiences or our relationships. In order for our insecurity not to get in the way of our progress we need to take active steps to deal with it.
In this blog post, we will explore the definition of being insecure, how it affects our lives, the importance of dealing with our insecurities as well as practical strategies you can apply the next time you feel insecure. I will also share a little about my journey with insecurity.
What does it mean to be insecure?
Insecure people have little confidence and are uncertain about their own abilities or if other people really like them: (Source: Cambridge Dictionary)
Someone who extremely lacks self-confidence. She won't know her worth. They would dislike their physical appearance & constantly compare themselves to their peers. Never feeling good enough, feeling sorry for themselves. (Source: Urban Dictionary)
Why is it important to face our insecurities ?
For our personal growth
To set an example for the young girls and ladies around us
To equip ourselves for the future
How does being insecure affect you?
Affects the way you see yourself
Stops you from taking bold steps
Limits your perspective on the big things you can do
What should you work towards?
The positive feelings are: secure, confident, assured, certain, decisive, stable, unafraid or untroubled.
5 Strategies to deal with your insecurity
#1: Accept your insecurities
Feeling insecure in any aspect of your life is normal. Being aware of your insecurities provides you with the opportunity to address them heads on. Spend time getting to know yourself more and equip yourself with the tool you need.
#2: Celebrate your achievements
Think back on those times when you overcame your insecurities and took a bold step. Celebrate them and acknowledge how hard you worked to make it happen. And then when you start doubting yourself or feeling insecure, take a look at what you've achieved.
#3: Commit to a plan
Setting a deadline and committing to a plan is a great way to hold yourself accountable to overcome your insecurities. The act of committing to do something puts you in a mindset of taking action.
#4:Do something you are afraid of
Take a step and do something you don't feel fully prepared for. The best strategy to face your insecurity is to take action. Sometimes it takes a while for you to start feeling confident. Continue taking steps towards achieving your goals.
#5: Share your story
Often, when we share our insecurities with others and listen to theirs as well, we feel empowered. Knowing that you are not alone with some of the challenges you face makes it feel better. Empower others and be empowered by others.
MC's Story
I also have my own share of insecurities. Recently I had to practice what I preach and face my insecurities. For about a year, I had been thinking about creating other avenues to share content and expand my community. Creating a YouTube channel was the next logical move, but I was too afraid to do it. I had never recorded or edited videos ever before. I was also very insecure about how I would look and sound on camera. There were many insecurities that I had to overcome before I took the first step.
The strategy that helped me was "Commit to a plan". Once I set a date to launch in March 2019, I had a date to work towards. For me keeping my commitment was more important than all the insecurities that held me back.
I did it !!! I launched my YouTube Channel this month.
Call To Action
What areas are you insecure? What strategies are you planning to apply? Identify your insecurities.
Final Thoughts
Feeling insecure does not mean you are weak - it is an indication of a personal preference you need to work on.
It is possible to face your insecurities and win in whatever you are working towards.
Build your self-esteem and confidence.
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